Stardust Self Interactive Tool

Relationship Protection Planner

Prepare for emotionally difficult interactions, choose a response strategy, protect your boundaries and create a personalised recovery plan.

Important: This is an educational self-reflection tool. It cannot diagnose another person or confirm that someone has narcissistic personality disorder. It focuses on behaviours, their effect on you and the choices available to you. Strategies such as grey rock may not be appropriate where they could increase danger. If you feel unsafe, prioritise safety and seek personalised support from an appropriate professional, trusted person or local support service.
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Step 1

Who is this relationship with?

This helps tailor the communication strategy to your situation.

Please select the relationship before continuing.
Step 2

How do interactions affect you?

Choose from 0 for “not at all” to 5 for “very often”.

Step 3

Which behaviours occur?

Select every behaviour that feels relevant.

Step 4

What is your main goal?

Choose what would help you most in your next interaction.

Please choose your main goal.
Step 5

What type of contact do you have?

Please select the type of contact.
Step 6

Plan your next interaction

Step 7

Your safety and exit plan

Choose the actions you can use if the interaction becomes unproductive or overwhelming.

Step 8

Choose your recovery supports

Difficult interactions can stay in the body. Choose what may help you return to yourself afterwards.

Your Personal Plan

Relationship impact reflection

Your Relationship Protection Plan

Your recommended strategies

Boundary and response scripts

Your interaction plan

Your recovery plan

    Self-trust reminders

    • I do not need another person’s agreement to recognise my experience.
    • I can end a conversation that becomes disrespectful or unproductive.
    • I am allowed to take time before responding.
    • Explaining myself repeatedly does not guarantee that I will be understood.
    • Protecting my wellbeing is not the same as punishing another person.

    Your responses remain in this browser while you use the tool. This version does not send or save your answers to the website database.