STARDUST SELF · CONNECT TOOL

Relationship Health Score

Reflect on the current pattern of one relationship across safety, trust, reciprocity, communication and repair. Use the result to identify strengths and the area needing the most care.

Check the relationship
A score is a prompt—not a verdict.

Context, culture, disability, stress and life seasons can affect relationships. However, threats, coercion, fear and retaliation are serious regardless of the total score.

CHOOSE ONE RELATIONSHIP

What are you reflecting on?

RATE THE PATTERN

How consistently is this true?

Answer from repeated behaviour, especially during stress or disagreement.

Safety & respect

1. I can say no, disagree or ask for space without punishment or pressure.
2. My privacy, dignity, identity and other relationships are respected.

Trust & consistency

3. Words and actions match often enough for me to know what to expect.
4. Personal information and vulnerability are handled with care.

Reciprocity & support

5. Both people’s needs, experiences and successes have space.
6. Effort and care feel mutual across time, even when temporarily uneven.

Communication

7. We can communicate needs and concerns without contempt, ridicule or intimidation.
8. Listening and understanding matter, even when we do not agree.

Conflict & repair

9. Mistakes can be acknowledged without blame-shifting or rewriting events.
10. Apologies are followed by repair and meaningful behavioural change.

Relationship health is a pattern, not a promise.

Healthy relationships make room for two people, protect dignity and respond to impact with accountability and repair.