Relationship Signals Checker
Relationship Signals Checker
Notice the behaviours that create confusion, pressure, or harm—and recognise the behaviours that build safety, trust, and mutual respect.
Look at the whole pattern.
One uncomfortable moment does not always define a relationship.
Repeated behaviours, accountability, repair, and how you feel over
time give you a clearer picture.
Which relationship are you considering?
You do not need to provide a name or identifying information.
Which red flags have you noticed?
Select behaviours that have actually occurred. Focus on patterns rather than trying to determine the person's motive.
Communication and confusion
Control and boundaries
Undermining and reputation
Support and reciprocity
Safety and intimidation
Which green flags have you noticed?
Green flags are not perfection. They are repeated signs of respect, accountability, care, consistency, and emotional safety.
Communication
Boundaries and autonomy
Support and reciprocity
Accountability and repair
Emotional safety
How do you usually feel in this relationship?
Your feelings do not automatically prove another person's intention, but repeated internal responses can provide important information.
How safe does this relationship generally feel?
Choose your felt sense rather than what you think it should be.
What does the overall pattern look like?
Consider consistency, accountability, repair, and whether the relationship improves after concerns are raised.
What would support you now?
Choose one practical next step. You do not have to solve the entire relationship today.
Your relationship picture
Your result reflects the behaviours and experiences you selected.
Mixed relationship signals
Warning signals noticed
Healthy signals noticed
How the relationship affects you
Your overall pattern
Look at consistency over time
Your safety deserves priority
You selected one or more behaviours involving serious control, intimidation, threats, forced contact, monitoring, or fear. Online reflection tools are not a substitute for specialist support. Consider making a private safety plan and seeking qualified help.
What you wanted to understand
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