Other Patterns
Pattern Finder
Not sure where your behaviour fits? Explore any habit, emotional reaction or repeated pattern with this guided self-discovery tool.
Give yourself a moment to settle
You do not need to feel perfectly calm. You will usually understand a pattern more clearly when you are not rushing or already overwhelmed. If you can, make a cup of tea, get comfortable, notice the room around you and take a few slow breaths.
There are no right answers. You are noticing what happens, not judging yourself for it.
Understand the pattern underneath the behaviour
Move through each step slowly. There are no right answers.
Your Pattern Map
What tends to trigger it
What you may feel first
What the pattern gives you
What it may be protecting
The thought or belief underneath
What you may actually need
Your complete pattern summary
What the pattern costs you
What already helps
Your kinder next response
Your personalised affirmation
Words you may hear
We use everyday language first. These are some of the proper terms you may come across when learning about repeated patterns.
Trigger: something that happens before a strong feeling, urge or response.
Coping pattern: a repeated response that helps you manage discomfort, stress or emotion in some way.
Avoidance: moving away from a feeling, task, conversation or situation that feels difficult.
Protective response: something your mind or body does in an attempt to reduce threat, discomfort or vulnerability.
Core belief: a deeply held idea about yourself, other people or the world that can influence how you respond.
Emotional regulation: noticing, managing and recovering from emotional responses.
Reinforcement: when the relief or reward after a behaviour makes that behaviour more likely to happen again.
Keep this pattern map
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