STARDUST SELF · CONNECT TOOL

Trust Ladder

Explore the evidence of trust one step at a time. This reflection helps you choose a level of access that fits what someone consistently shows—not only what you hope for.

Start the reflection
A gentle reminder

Trust is specific, gradual and allowed to change. This tool is not a diagnosis or a safety assessment. If you feel controlled, threatened or unsafe, prioritise support and professional advice.

STEP 1 · CHOOSE THE RELATIONSHIP

Who are you reflecting on?

Use a first name, initials or a private description.

STEP 2 · NOTICE THE EVIDENCE

What has this person consistently shown?

Select the answer that best reflects the pattern over time.

1. Their words and actions generally match.
2. They respect my “no”, limits and need for time.
3. I can disagree without being punished, mocked or pressured.
4. They take responsibility and make repair after mistakes.
5. They handle personal information with care.
6. Care and effort feel reasonably mutual.
7. They can hear my feelings without making them about themselves.
8. I have observed respectful behaviour across time and situations.

Trust does not have to be all or nothing.

You can offer different kinds of trust in different areas, keep observing, move slowly and change your mind when new evidence appears.

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